DO’S
Related Posts: SINGLES SERIES: BASICS OF COURTSHIP
Most of the things earlier
mentioned are things you need to be doing during courtship starting from
praying together, discussing your future and so on, all these are vital to the
success of the courtship and your home as well. I’ve also included in this write
up some things that you need to discuss during courtship.
DON’TS.
These are some things you
need to avoid in other to have a successful Christian courtship:
-Do not be exclusive in
relating with each other all the time.
-Do not plan to isolate yourselves
in dark or solitary places where you can easily be tempted, why should the two
of you be praying alone in a dark room?
-Do not give in to your
passion and abuse your bodies for sexual sins – avoid petting, necking,
fondling, kissing, sex – Gal. 5:6, 1 Thess. 4:3-7. Remember true love waits.
-Do not watch sexually
explicit movies, porn movies, or x rated films together or alone.
Mind what you wear, don’t
tempt each other, don’t say after all he’s your fiancée and he is a child of
God and then use that as a license to appear semi-nude, or wear transparent
clothes or dress with no underwear while he’s around. Guys likewise should mind
what they wear.
-Don’t let your good be
evil spoken of (Rom.14:16). Avoid sleeping in the same room or on the same bed
during visitation or on a tour. A brother said he can sleep on the same bed
with a sister and nothing will happen, then I asked even if nothing happens
then what are you trying to prove? Are you proving you have a PhD in Holiness
or what? Can you be holy by your self-will without God’s grace? Friend, run
away from every appearance of evil, otherwise the news of your fall will fill
the air soon. Be wise!
-Don’t plan to have a very
long courtship! Courtship takes a lot of commitment, so don’t even start it if
you know you will not have the time to be committed to the relationship because
the price of relationship is commitment.
Courtship is not a period
of gathering for a one-in-town wedding celebration that you can’t afford.
DO NOT IGNORE WARNING
SIGNALS!!!
So many Christians are regretting their marriage today or already have a broken home because they ignore warning signals during their courtship. When we make mistakes in choices as believers, God in His infinite mercies have a way of bringing us back to the right track especially when we are sincere and faithful to Him, during such moments He finds a way of letting you know that you are in a wrong relationship capable of ruining your future, this He can do through dreams, or constant fear any time you think about your spouse to be or through any other means.. if after you have prayed rigorously about it in order to be sure that the fear or revelation is not from the devil and the experience still keep coming then you have to quit the relationship. Some sisters, despite the fact that they can see that the guy they are engaged to is wayward yet they still follow stupidly probably because they felt if they disengage they might not get another person again or for some selfish reasons, same goes for guys. Don’t let her facial beauty or long (artificial) hair becloud you of warning signals. You know within you that something is wrong, but you are allowing your head to rule your heart, the end result will be a disaster! Call it a quit. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. Although it may be painful, you just have to do it and that is the reason why it is good to pray well and be very careful when choosing a life partner so that you don’t end up with heartbreak each time.
So many Christians are regretting their marriage today or already have a broken home because they ignore warning signals during their courtship. When we make mistakes in choices as believers, God in His infinite mercies have a way of bringing us back to the right track especially when we are sincere and faithful to Him, during such moments He finds a way of letting you know that you are in a wrong relationship capable of ruining your future, this He can do through dreams, or constant fear any time you think about your spouse to be or through any other means.. if after you have prayed rigorously about it in order to be sure that the fear or revelation is not from the devil and the experience still keep coming then you have to quit the relationship. Some sisters, despite the fact that they can see that the guy they are engaged to is wayward yet they still follow stupidly probably because they felt if they disengage they might not get another person again or for some selfish reasons, same goes for guys. Don’t let her facial beauty or long (artificial) hair becloud you of warning signals. You know within you that something is wrong, but you are allowing your head to rule your heart, the end result will be a disaster! Call it a quit. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. Although it may be painful, you just have to do it and that is the reason why it is good to pray well and be very careful when choosing a life partner so that you don’t end up with heartbreak each time.
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