Courtship can actually be very challenging, a lot
of singles started with the hope of getting married but ended with both parties
going their separate ways for one reason or the other. The following tips will
help you to have a successful courtship in addition to the dos and don’ts of
Christian courtship.
LOVE: Even though it takes more than love to
sustain a relationship, Love is still key in sustaining a relationship, true
love stands the test of time, and any relationship built on material things
without true love will surely collapse. If a guy truly loves you as a lady, He
will not want to defile you before your wedding night. Do not marry someone you
do not love, no matter the persuasion, Love transcends beauty or any other
facial qualities. Let love be the bedrock of your relationship.
FORGIVENESS: No matter how much you
Both love each other, times will come when you will
offend each other or have some forms of disagreement over issues that may lead
to one party feeling offended, you must learn to forgive each other. Do not
hold grudges against your partner, be open to discuss and settle your
differences. Do not hold on to past mistakes and errors. Always forgive each
other. Unforgiveness can lead to bitterness, hatred, suspicion and lack of trust,
which are all killers of relationship.
TRUST: Trust is very vital in sustaining a
courtship, if you cannot trust each other there is no point moving along.
Without trust, there will be gross suspicion capable of destroying the
relationship. Some women have made up their mind never to trust any guy again
in their life due to past disappointments; if you carry that notion into your
new relationship then you can be sure of getting nowhere. The fact is that you
should not even think of marrying someone you cannot trust. So learn to trust
your partner. Many of our assumptions are not always right! The fact that you
called her and she did not pick the call is not to conclude that she is seeing
another man or maybe she deliberately did not want to pick your calls. Be
considerate and always put yourself in your partner’s shoes.
UNDERSTANDING: as earlier mentioned, one of the
things courtship period does is to allow the two parties understand each other.
Remember you both have different minds, so you cannot think alike, it calls for
proper understanding to actually flow together. Learn to be patient with each
other and not overreact too quickly, take things gently and with understanding.
Most of the things that cause trouble or misunderstanding in courtship are just
simple things.
COMMUNICATION: Without effective communication,
there will be lots of assumptions and misunderstanding. You both must be able
to express yourself in a way that you both will understand, talk plainly not in
parables! Don’t assume your partner knows what you are thinking when you never
told him/her, don’t assume he/she should know what you are passing through if
you’ve never told him/her. Talk about your plans and visions, talk, talk, talk!
Also, remember that your body language is also part of communication, your
partners is also reading the expressions on your face. When you say sorry, does
your body language say so too?
BOUNDARIES: Christian liberty is not freedom to
commit sin, you must at the beginning of the courtship and as you go along set
boundaries to guide your relationship as Christians, your boundaries determine
your no-go areas. If you do not set boundaries soon you will discover you are
romancing and doing a lot of contrary things to God’s standard of holiness.
Never engage in sex until you are married, petting, kissing and romancing are
manifestations of lustful desires!
PRAYERS: Even in marriage, it is said that the
family that prays together stays together. Prayer is very vital in a
relationship as well as reading scriptures and your devotion to God. Learn to
pray together, the bible says if two of you shall agree as touching anything,
it will be done. There are forces of darkness that may be militating against
your life or your future home; you need to destroy their plans in fervent
prayers. You need to commit everything, to God in prayers. Jesus said watch
and pray!
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