The time of courtship is a time to discover God
together; it is a time of robbing your visions together, a time of knowing your
family members and relations, a time to study each other’s culture, a time to
study your differences (gender, family background, temperament, personal goals,
and cultural differences).
It is a time of planning, not just the wedding, but
the home, how your home will look like, planning your career/profession, and
aspirations both spiritually and physically, it is a period of setting goals.
· It’s a period of discussing your finances, in-laws,
responsibilities etc. and sex (but be careful not to fall into immorality while
discussing sex, it’s better deferred to when the wedding day is close, books on
sex in marriage can help but be careful not to go into sex before marriage as
your body chemistry might be activated during this period especially when you
are with your intended spouse! So watch!). Note: the relationship should be
temporarily suspended if you both fall into sex and report yourselves to your
pastor/guidance! Do not continue in sin.
Courtship
entails the unifying of your spirits as you study the bible together, pray and
fast, learn the scriptures together, visit church programs, you must agree on
bible doctrines e.g. Spirit baptism, water baptism, heaven and hell, faith,
holiness, etc. visit your spiritual mentors together, read Christian
literature.
It also entails unifying your minds together as you
try to understand each other’s view on issues, what excite you may irritate
your partner, it’s a period you understand what your partner values and trying
to see from each other’s point of view. It is a time to listen to each other
and not being domineering.
It is a time to look into the future together and
start buying things in readiness for the wedding and the home.
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BEING A PERFECT GUEST AT A WEDDING
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