The University of Uyo, Uyo AKA Tuskers Republic was my alma mater and I stayed in the hostel with over five (5) or seven (7) persons if there is a squatter or squatee all through my four (4) years in school which was a very tough one for me but one major lesson I leant is that "difficult people are not a problem, they are a provision".
We all desire to grow in life. In fact, if I were to offer you the ability to become more aware, more resilient, adaptable, approachable, patient, and resilient and to be a better communicator, and listener, you’ll probably ask, “How much?” I’d tell you it’s available for the price of some minor and initial discomfort and the acceptance that embracing difficult people is a part of the bargain.
Unfortunately the first instinct we get when we approach people we don’t vibe or gel with is bolt. We discard them as offering no enjoyment or relevancy to our life. All probably true at first glance.
But if lean in a bit, you’ll discover that difficult people present an opportunity to practice new ways of being with new kinds of people that will forge you into a stronger person while expanding your relatability, likability, social ability, conversational agility, over all civility, and sense of nobility so you can reduce future irritability. (SORRY!)
Difficult persons are to stay, so it makes sense to have the tools to deal with them in our mental arsenal. We have to sharpen our skills and become better equipped to deal with every insecure, manipulative, arrogant, lazy, self-righteous, lackluster, idiotic person we meet. And we get to practice ways to move them into a way of being that is palatable, perhaps enjoyable.
The good news is that if you succeed, you’ll have breathed life into despair, and perhaps gained an ally. If you fail, you can shake it off and go again if you can. Regardless with every success or defeat, you’ll improve your odds of emotional and social control while making human nature a little easier to contend with.
DON’T AVIOD DIFFICULT PEOPLE, YOU HAVE A TOOLBOX, CONSIDER USING IT.
Written by
Esther Ebeh
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