SINGLES SERIES: IS I DO THE BEGINNING OF BLISS OR REGRET? 2

VOLUNTEER TOGETHER

Get out of the house and do something together! This helps you run from temptation (because it will get harder to wait until you’re married to make love the closer to the wedding you get) and it helps you to see if he is motivated to help others.

It may be teaching Sunday school or youth group, it may be belonging to a music team at church, it may be something in your community. But find something to do.

Red Flags:

·         If he has no interest in helping others, he likely is very self-focused and won’t want to help others in your married life, either. 
-         If it’s important to you that he’s involved in your children’s lives and activities, then make sure that he’s willing to sacrifice his own free time now, too.

BLEND YOUR FAMILIES

When we’re dating, all that seems to matter is just the two of you. Once you’re married, his family becomes your family, and you’ll never be alone in the same way again.

Take the initiative to get to know his family. If they don’t live near you, suggest Skype dates. Have him get to know your family as well. See how he fits. If your family is important to you, then make sure that he actually enjoys being with them and makes an effort, rather than making you feel guilty for wanting to spend time with siblings.

Red Flags:

·         If he takes no interest in getting to know your family, or constantly criticizes them, he will not want to spend time with them once you’re married, and will likely resent the time you spend with them.

·         If he does errands for his parents, but refuses to do any for you, he could be too attached to his own family. Again, that’s unlikely to change once you’re married.

·         If he spends significant amounts of time with his family, but refuses to spend time with yours, makes excuses, or resents you for wanting to be with your family, then this will become a constant source of stress later, too. As much as possible, you should be able to spend equal times with each family without this being a source of conflict now. If it is, that’s a problem.

Your thoughts and comments are appreciated. 

You May Like:
SINGLE SERIES: IS I DO THE BEGINNING OF BLISS OR REGRET?

CARE ENOUGH TO CONFRONT

ARE YOU READY FOR MARRIAGE

SINGLES SERIES: COURTSHIP What you need to know

SINGLES SERIES: COURTSHIP II 

IS PRAYING AN OPTION?

PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE, HOW CAPABLE ARE YOU?

FRIENDSHIP: SO INVALUABLE

THE SECRET FOR WALKING IN LOVE WITH THE UNLOVABLE

ATTRACTION: NEEDLESS OR NEEDFUL

THE HIGH COST OF HIDING YOURSELF

MY RESOLVE! YOUR RESOLVE!!

BEING A PERFECT GUEST AT A WEDDING

HOW TO STAY HEALTHY I